Updated: Apr 1, 2020
When I feel angry, I work on developing more compassion for myself and others. Compassion makes me happier and healthier.
I acknowledge my emotions. I admit to myself that I am angry. I search for the causes and look for positive ways to deal with them. I recognize my part in the situation instead of blaming external forces.
I remember how much I have in common with others. Instead of letting conflicts separate me from others, I use them as challenges to draw us closer together. When I feel offended, I think about the times that I have offended others.
I find it easier to practice forgiveness when I see how often I need to be pardoned too.
I try to look at the situation from the other person’s point of view. Rather than taking their actions personally or assuming harmful intentions, I accept that it could be a misunderstanding, or they could be irritable because they have a headache.
I pause before acting.
I focus on constructive and mutually beneficial solutions. I share information and collaborate with others.
I motivate myself by thinking about how anger affects me. Rage weakens my immune system, raises my blood pressure, and increases my anxiety. I look and sound unpleasant. My relationships deteriorate, and my thinking becomes unclear.
Today, I transform anger into compassion.
I resolve conflicts skillfully and protect my peace of mind.
1. How is anger like a prison?
2. What is the relationship between anger and aggression?
3. What is the difference between suppressing anger and transforming anger?